Joy Amidst the Hustle

I tend to allow myself to get so stressed during this season. Every year I tell myself that it will be different, much like a New Year’s Resolution, but it inevitably happens at some point.

I blow my top thanks to the stress and lack of joy I choose to allow in my life and heart. When I found myself muttering “I hate the holidays” while sobbing and hiding in the bathroom. 

I don’t actually hate the holidays. I actually love Christmas. I love Jesus. I love celebrating His birth. I love the decorations, the gathering of family, the food, the Christmas Eve Services. 

But I hate what it does to my heart. Or rather, what I allow the hustle do to my heart. Instead of choosing joy and celebration, I choose stress and expectations.

Instead of soaking in thankfulness and meditation, I choose to harbor hurt and anger because some things aren’t completed or done to my standards.

I hate that I get this way.

I am sitting here drinking coffee and gazing at my Christmas tree. Those ornaments that hang remind me of the joy I felt as a kid putting them up. They were gifts from my parents as they wanted their children to have their own set of ornaments when we began to have our own families and create our own traditions. They wanted to pass on the joy of Christmas. And in their way, that meant gifting us with our own ornament treasures each year that spoke to our personalities and to our interests. It was always a favorite tradition for myself and my siblings to head to Hallmark the day after Christmas to pick out our new ornament. And truly, I really do have over 100 ornaments that came with me when I got married (much to Dan’s surprise!)

I want to pass on that joy, but in a different sense. I want my kids to see not a stressed out momma at Christmas time, but a momma who is intoxicated with joy because her Savior was born on this day, and we get to celebrate that day with each other. I want to decorate my home and bake and serve not because I have to, but because I get to. My Savior was born on this day.

Yes, this time of year can be stressful, filled with pain, and riddled with expectations, but let’s choose joy and allow God to set it in our hearts. It is a season of celebration!

Do you need a little lift in your heart? Can I pray for you today?

Be a Size You,


Favorites of a Fit Gal

Contrary to popular belief, I don’t just love all things fitness. While I do geek out over the latest fitness programs and supplements, and workout gear, I have a few other loves in my life that I would love to share with you. I would love to hear about some of your favorites as well!! 

1. Readers are Leaders. 


This stack of books you see here are just a small sampling of what I have read. I have a ton more on my kindle!!! Because I desire so greatly to increase the value of another person’s life, I want to grow as much as possible, and learn as much as I can go so I can pour out my heart to my friends and family and all of you! Some of my favorite titles:

*Own Your Life- Sally Clarkson

*The Best Yes- Lysa Terkeurst

*Make it Happen- Lara Casey

*Kingdom Woman- Chrystal Evans Hurst

*Fervant- Priscilla Shirer

*Entreleadership- Dave Ramsey

*The Compound Effect- Darren Hardy

*The Key to Everything- Matt Keller
2. Holistic Oily Mama  
I am by no means an essential oils expert, but I have fallen in love with them and I don’t care who knows it! I love Young Living’s Panaway blend and Thieves, but I also really love Plant Therapy’s oils as well, especially their kid safe line. If you know a Young Living distributor, definitely ask them to help you find the best oils for your family. The best source is to go to someone who uses them regularly on themselves. 
3. Get Dolled Up

I will admit it. I am a bit of a makeup junky. I didn’t use to be. I hardly ever wore makeup, mostly because I was so intimidated by it. But after binge watching some makeup YouTube channels, I have found what I like and I am now a Sephora VIB member. Not sure I should be proud of that 😬.

Anyway, I love makeup brushes from Real Techniques (you can find them at Ulta or Target) and It Cosmetics (Ulta). The Energy Noir palette from Tarte is gorgeous and I use it for date nights and when I want to play up my eyes a little more. My favorite highlighter of the moment is Becca by Jaclyn Hill’s Champagne Pop. Favorite Foundation for right now is Too Faced Born This Way. And I have an unhealthy collection of lip products. Favorite perfume is Elizabeth & James Nirvana Black. Concealer is Maybelline Better Skin concealer.

4. Be a Goal Digger

I am a paper and pen gal. I love my Erin Condren planner. I found these really cute journals from the Target dollar spot. Staedtler pens are my favorite! I grabbed mine off Amazon but you can find them at Target as well! 

5. Bonus favorite! Candles!!

Need I say more? Bath and Body Works candles. They seriously make me giddy. Even my husband approves of me spending the money to buy their candles. Salted Caramel and Marshmallow Fireside? Yes please!! 

What are some of your favorites?

Be a Size You,


You Make a Poor God

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I have been reading an incredible book called Let It Go by Karen Ehman. It is about being a control freak.

For real. And I am here to confess that I am a control freak.

Especially when it comes to my precious children.

My greatest desire is to raise them up to know Jesus and to be a man and woman who have exemplary character. That when others watch them and talk to them, there will be no question about whom they serve with their whole heart.

And if I can be even the tiniest bit honest, sometimes, okay a lot of the time, I want people to think the best of me as well. That I am a great parent.

But I am not God. In fact, I make a very poor God. And so do you, my friend.

I have found myself trying to change, shift, correct EVERYTHING they do, from what clothes they wear, to their friendships, their experiences, and more. There is one thing to be protective. I want to protect their eyes and ears and hearts from things that I believe would be harmful to them, but I cannot CONTROL every aspect of their little lives.

I want obedient children, but not at the expense of their dignity. And I definitely don’t want robots.

And when I try to control them or anything else in my life, what I am really saying is that I don’t trust God with my children. With my finances. With my marriage. With my business.

When I try to put myself in God’s place in their lives or anyone else’s, that is when we have an issue.

The bible teaches that we are to raise our children up in the way they should go so that when they grow older, they will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

Nowhere does God tell us to control or manipulate in order to raise them. They have to learn. They have to grow. And sadly, they will have to make mistakes, much to the dismay of our momma heart.  Yes, their mistakes will be painful to them and to us, but only then can they learn and grow. I have yet to meet a person who was transformed from the inside out thanks to a perfect life and being mistake free!

The bible also teaches us to Trust the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. (Luke 10:27).

God doesn’t manipulate us into obedience and fellowship with Him. He gave us free will and a free gift and an opportunity for us to CHOOSE. There was no coercion on his part. Simply grace and compassion for his wayward children.

Parent with grace. Let go of the need to control everything they do.

And if you need a little encouragement in this area, I highly recommend grabbing Let it Go and reading it with a fellow control freak in Christ. =).

Be a Size You,


Chocolate Eggnog Shake


I am not normally an eggnog drinker, but last year I had picked up a mint chocolate eggnog drink from Silk and it was pretty much mind blowing.  I put it in my chocolate smoothies a lot and it was so amazing!!!! If you can find, put it in your cart and take it home with you. So so good!

If you aren’t too keen on chocolate mint eggnog, but an eggnog smoothie sounds good (and bonus points it if it is healthy!) then this recipe is for you!


Chocolate Eggnog Smoothie


½ cup water
½ unsweetened almond milk
1 scoop Chocolate Shakeology
½ tsp. ground allspice
1 tsp. pure rum extract
1 cup ice

1. Place water, almond milk, Shakeology, allspice, extract, and ice in blender; cover. Blend until smooth.

*My family uses Shakeology and we love it.  I have been drinking it for four years now and I can’t imagine not having it in our house. Total lifesaver and I love the fact that at least one meal in my day is simple! And I love that I can find a ton of recipes through the Team Beachbody Blog, which is where I got this recipe!

Small Business Christmas Ideas

I am a huge believer in supporting small businesses. Yes, you can get a lot of great things at Target, Walmart, and even Amazon, but I love knowing that my dollars will go to a mom working to help her family, or an organization that has a mission to change the world for good in mind.

That is something to feel good about.  I work hard at what I do, and I want to know that my dollars are going toward good. Big businesses are important, because they can supply jobs and opportunities that many small businesses can’t, but small businesses should not be neglected. They are vital!

If you are still looking for some Christmas gifts, here are a couple of my favorite small businesses that you should support:

31 Bits: They are an incredible organization that is dedicated to hiring women in Uganda and giving them the opportunity to make an income for their families, something that many do not have.  Read their story and check out their incredible jewelry. Gorgeous pieces and perfect gifts for anyone of your girlfriends!

Cross Training Couture: If you know someone who loves working out, and is constantly on the search for active wear with a positive message, my sweet friend, Michelle Myers, is the owner of this active wear shop.  I have several of her tanks and her sweaters and they are my go to source for active wear tanks. I love the message, and I love the person behind this company. Michelle’s heart is real and she loves Jesus.  You will fall in love with her, just as I have!

Dashing Dish: Know anyone who loves to cook but gets overwhelmed by meal planning?  I love the membership option (only $7.95 a month) that gives you access to thousands of recipes, and more are being added regularly.  You can create a grocery list, menu, save favorite recipes and more.  I have been using the membership for a few months now and I don’t know why I waited so long to get one!

There are so many more small businesses that I could name!

What are your favorite small businesses that you want to see supported?

Discipline-2016 Word of the Year


Photo by Anna Pociask, She Works His Way

For several years, our family has chosen one word that we want to reflect our goals and desires for ourselves and for our family.

Thrive, Patience, Intentional have been some of the words that we have had reflected in our homes and it has been so fun to watch as God transformed our hearts and we saw our goals come to fruition, all because we decided to take a single word and make it a focus.  It helped us streamline our goals and our desires. It helped to us to make sure that our priorities were in line and that we were a team. Families are not meant to be lone rangers!

For 2016, our word will be-Discipline!

Wait. What? Discipline? I know, I know. That word doesn’t seem as fun. Trust me. We fought that one!

But the more Dan and I prayed about it, the more we felt we needed Discipline to be our word. It wasn’t that we were all over the place or that we weren’t disciplined in anything, but we saw some areas in our parenting, marriage, life, and finances that definitely needed work. So for 2016, as a goal we are doing together, we will be working on refining those disciplines. We will be working together to put systems in place within our household that will bless our family and bless others.

We want to raise our children to know and love Jesus, more than anything else. That takes discipline in how you parent and how diligent you are in raising them. It doesn’t happen by accident.

We have big dreams about ministry and how we will do that as a couple. But there is discipline in growing with the Lord each day. It doesn’t happen by accident and you can’t pour out to others if you are empty.

We want to invest in ministries and help people who are in need without worrying about our own finances. But that won’t happen without be disciplined in spending, saving, and giving.  We want to be good stewards and generous givers. It takes work.

We want to be closer as a married couple than when we were first dating. But that takes discipline in planning out date nights and choosing to grow closer, even when it is hard.  Marriage is hard work. A good marriage doesn’t just happen by accident.

We want to train for Godliness.

1 Timothy 4:8 says:

“For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.”

God’s word is clear that while we may be doing things that will benefit us physically (like working out and eating healthy!), the ultimate goal is to train for Godliness. We are to reflect Him.  That should be our goal! Godliness does not happen by accident. It doesn’t  happen because we simply want it to. It takes daily training, studying, seeking , prayer, discipline.

Discipline isn’t always fun, but it is necessary.

I am so excited to see what God will do as we train for Godliness in 2016.

Do you have a word of the year? Have you chosen yours for 2016?

Hammer & Chisel into the New Year


If you are like everyone else, you probably have some health and fitness related goals for yourself and for your family.

I certainly do!

I am so excited to challenge myself physically and see what I can do. I grew up as an athlete and I love competition. So while I may not be on an elite sports team, I love competing with myself to see what I can do and accomplish in the new year.

Beginning December 27th, I and others will be doing the brand new Hammer and Chisel fitness program for 2016. 

What is Hammer and Chisel? 

It is a fitness and nutrition program brought to you by Sagi Kalev (Body Beast Creator) and Autumn Calabrese (21 Day Fix and 21 Day Fix Extreme. They will be utilizing the SSP training system (Stabilization, Strength, and Power) in order to define your body and give it strength and total definition. In other words, we are in for it! That makes me excited! It is definitely a different type of program than we have seen before so I am ready for my Challengers to do this with me.

And you can join in to!

I have several spots open for my Hammer and Chisel into the New year group

In this group we will:

*Complete the entire 60 day program. 

*Follow the nutrition guide and portion control containers.

*Supplement with A superfood packed shake and/or performance supplements (I am obsessed with Shakeology and Beachbody performance. They have provided me with optimal results with many of the fitness programs I have done.)

*Check in daily within a private Facebook group.

*I will provide resources, accountability, support. My job will be to help you get the results YOU want!

There will also be bonus challenges where you can earn points and the winner will earn a prize from me!

If you aren’t already working with a coach, I would love to have you join us! It is going to be tough, but I can guarantee that if you do the work and you commit, you will get the results!

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask! 

Let’s have some fun and make 2016 an awesome year! 

Be a Size You,