This past weekend Dan and I had the opportunity to share with 40 married couples at KACC’s marriage retreat. I was excited to serve alongside Dan and share our hearts about what we have learned as a married couple.
We broke our message up into three key areas that we felt we had struggled the most with and wanted to encourage the couples to look at as well. Dan really hit it home with the men that leadership begins in the home. They are to lead their wives and families Spiritually. It was their job.
I spoke to the women regarding our first relationship: God.
So many times we are too tired, too busy, stretched too thin because we are constantly meeting the needs of everyone else. We pour out everything we have to our children, ministries, jobs….and then maybe our husbands will get what is left over….and God gets nothing.
Not. a. Thing.
We need to FIRST allow ourselves to bask in the presence of God. To allow Him to fill up our empty hearts and cups so that we can pour out Grace, compassion, mercy and love to our husbands, then our children and then whatever comes after that.
That is the order.
Ecclesiastes 10:10 says “If the iron is blunt, and one does not sharpen the edge, he must use more strength, but wisdom helps one to succeed.”
Ladies, we must utilize the power of the Holy Spirit. If we are finding ourselves weak, tired and unable to give anything else, we must be poured into by God. Allow Him to renew us and help us! Let him replenish our dry spirits!
That also goes for physically. We push and push and push our bodies to do more and pack our schedules until every single second is taken from us. And then we cry out for help and feel completely burned out because we have not taken any care for our bodies. Spending just 30 minutes a day to release some stress through exercise, eating the right foods and even finding moments of rest (a nap, bubble bath..what relaxes you?).
Our health matters. If we break down, everything else suffers. We won’t be able to care for our husbands, tend to the needs of our children or even fulfill outside obligations. It matters.
“If it is important to you, you will find a way. It not, you will find an excuse.”
Do you love God? Make your time with him a priority. Do you want to be a healthy individual? Exercise and nutrition is something that must be included and isn’t an option.
I have struggled so long with the things above that I got tired of struggling. I wanted victory in these areas. And you can have victory too.