Discipline-2016 Word of the Year

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For several years, our family has chosen one word that we want to reflect our goals and desires for ourselves and for our family.

Thrive, Patience, Intentional have been some of the words that we have had reflected in our homes and it has been so fun to watch as God transformed our hearts and we saw our goals come to fruition, all because we decided to take a single word and make it a focus.  It helped us streamline our goals and our desires. It helped to us to make sure that our priorities were in line and that we were a team. Families are not meant to be lone rangers!

For 2016, our word will be-Discipline!

Wait. What? Discipline? I know, I know. That word doesn’t seem as fun. Trust me. We fought that one!

But the more Dan and I prayed about it, the more we felt we needed Discipline to be our word. It wasn’t that we were all over the place or that we weren’t disciplined in anything, but we saw some areas in our parenting, marriage, life, and finances that definitely needed work. So for 2016, as a goal we are doing together, we will be working on refining those disciplines. We will be working together to put systems in place within our household that will bless our family and bless others.

We want to raise our children to know and love Jesus, more than anything else. That takes discipline in how you parent and how diligent you are in raising them. It doesn’t happen by accident.

We have big dreams about ministry and how we will do that as a couple. But there is discipline in growing with the Lord each day. It doesn’t happen by accident and you can’t pour out to others if you are empty.

We want to invest in ministries and help people who are in need without worrying about our own finances. But that won’t happen without be disciplined in spending, saving, and giving.  We want to be good stewards and generous givers. It takes work.

We want to be closer as a married couple than when we were first dating. But that takes discipline in planning out date nights and choosing to grow closer, even when it is hard.  Marriage is hard work. A good marriage doesn’t just happen by accident.

We want to train for Godliness.

1 Timothy 4:8 says:

“For while bodily training is of some value, godliness is of value in every way, as it holds promise for the present life and also for the life to come.”

God’s word is clear that while we may be doing things that will benefit us physically (like working out and eating healthy!), the ultimate goal is to train for Godliness. We are to reflect Him.  That should be our goal! Godliness does not happen by accident. It doesn’t  happen because we simply want it to. It takes daily training, studying, seeking , prayer, discipline.

Discipline isn’t always fun, but it is necessary.

I am so excited to see what God will do as we train for Godliness in 2016.

Do you have a word of the year? Have you chosen yours for 2016?

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Hammer & Chisel into the New Year

  

If you are like everyone else, you probably have some health and fitness related goals for yourself and for your family.

I certainly do!

I am so excited to challenge myself physically and see what I can do. I grew up as an athlete and I love competition. So while I may not be on an elite sports team, I love competing with myself to see what I can do and accomplish in the new year.

Beginning December 27th, I and others will be doing the brand new Hammer and Chisel fitness program for 2016. 

What is Hammer and Chisel? 

It is a fitness and nutrition program brought to you by Sagi Kalev (Body Beast Creator) and Autumn Calabrese (21 Day Fix and 21 Day Fix Extreme. They will be utilizing the SSP training system (Stabilization, Strength, and Power) in order to define your body and give it strength and total definition. In other words, we are in for it! That makes me excited! It is definitely a different type of program than we have seen before so I am ready for my Challengers to do this with me.

And you can join in to!

I have several spots open for my Hammer and Chisel into the New year group

In this group we will:

*Complete the entire 60 day program. 

*Follow the nutrition guide and portion control containers.

*Supplement with A superfood packed shake and/or performance supplements (I am obsessed with Shakeology and Beachbody performance. They have provided me with optimal results with many of the fitness programs I have done.)

*Check in daily within a private Facebook group.

*I will provide resources, accountability, support. My job will be to help you get the results YOU want!

There will also be bonus challenges where you can earn points and the winner will earn a prize from me!

If you aren’t already working with a coach, I would love to have you join us! It is going to be tough, but I can guarantee that if you do the work and you commit, you will get the results!

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to ask! 

Let’s have some fun and make 2016 an awesome year! 

Be a Size You,
Tiffany 

Get in the Spirit for Fitness

  
I used to tell myself this every single year! I had all of these aspirations to be fit, to be stronger, to have more energy. And funny thing was, that inspiration always seemed to strike right in the middle of the holidays!

Are you feeling me on this?

I would then justify NOT starting because, hello, Christmas was close! I had to save my pennies to shop for gifts. I was going to be surrounded by baked goods at parties and at church so what was the point of eating healthy for the rest of my meals at home. (See where I am going?). So I would wait until January……or later in the new year to get started on my goals…..long after the idea presented itself.

Here is why I believe NOW is the time to get started on your health and fitness goals, if you have them. 

1. You avoid the crowds at the gym come January. I love the people get excited for the New Year. A new beginning and a fresh start. But it also means everyone is doing the same thing and it can sometimes be hard to focus when so many are around you. I believe it can be inspiring as well, but a lot of times it can be distracting. Now is the time because not many people will be willing to transform during this season. But you aren’t like everyone else!

2. You can lose weight instead of gain this holiday season. There is debate over the actual numbers regarding weight gain during the holidays, but truthfully, most people, if they don’t have a plan in place, do eat in excess and see some gain. You get to buck the trend and either maintain your weight if you desire or even lose, if that is what you are working towards. Again, you don’t have to be like everyone else. 

3. You will actually have more energy and be less stressed this season. Let’s face it: the holidays can be very stressful and exhausting. There is a lot to do, especially for those of you who travel long distances to see family. But you don’t have to sacrifice yourself on the altar of stress for the sake of the season. Exercise and good nutrition will help you stay balanced and your body in good form so that you can accomplish all that you need to with joy. And your family will appreciate it too!
Bottom line is the excuse to wait until January is simply that: an excuse. I know that isn’t easy to hear. We want to justify our reasons for letting go and mistreating our bodies. But Christmas comes every year, same time. There really is NO excuse to put off caring for your body. You don’t need to work towards obtaining a six pack, but you should be working towards being a size you so you can serve your family and live life well. 

If you need some motivation or a plan, I would love to help you! I have been living the Be a Size You lifestyle for 4 years now and it has enriched my life deeply! I want you to experience the same thing! 
Be a Size You,

Tiff 

Grace-Unmerited Favor

  
I am not a biblical scholar. I won’t pretend to understand completely the difference between Calvinism and Armenian. I won’t try to fumble my way to explain the end times and what the literal and metaphorical texts mean for us. (Side note: I do study God’s word and try to learn about the end times, but I am not as well educated as my brothers and sisters who study it for a living! Truly fascinating stuff and it gets me excited for Jesus’ return!)

Grace. I just feel that this is the one area in a believer’s life where it is so easy to ask for, but so difficult to display. When we are pained by another person, when their sin against us is so raw and fresh, grace sounds like a dirty, ugly word. It blinds us to see an opportunity to be like Jesus and turn the other cheek. I am not talking about creating boundaries. Those are healthy and many times necessary. 

I am talking about those moments when we decide to publicly share our pain. And we want everyone to know that this person caused us pain. And we want NO grace. No redemption for that person because WE were hurt by them. We have told ourselves that that person who caused us pain does not deserve opportunities for forgiveness, for growth, for redemption, for restoration. And when someone that we know shows that person any sort of compassion or kindness, it rips through us like a knife. It feels like betrayal. 

Pain is real. Make no mistake about it. When people choose to hurt us, the wounds won’t heal overnight. But, and I am speaking to myself here, we should not keep someone else from displaying compassion, Grace, love, and hope to that person, especially when we are not able to give it.

Is that person who hurt you not allowed a second chance, the way you have been given a second chance? Is that person not allowed a chance to see God’s love in action and to seek forgiveness and restoration? Even if you can’t be the one who gives it? I spent a year of my lifeon a ranch with my husband who worked with men who were basically the throwaways of society. They had stolen, lied, been in jail, betrayed families, homeless, angry and bitter towards anyone who tried to help them. Is Grace not to be offered to them because of what they did to others? Is a second chance not available to them because they hurt someone, perhaps even you?

Unless God himself tells you to reconcile with this person (and please listen if He does), you are not to tell another person that they can’t share or love someone because you were hurt. They may very well have hurt you and they may very not deserve grace. But that is what Grace is: unmerited favor. None of us deserve it.

We certainly did not deserve to have Jesus, He who knew no sin, to die on the cross for us so we could be reconciled with God and no longer His enemies. 

This is not simple. It is really hard to do this day in and day out. Many of us are hurting. We just want to heal from those wounds in our soul. Offering Grace and kindness and love and compassion and hope to someone like that, it is not easy. It can even leave a sick feeling in our stomach just thinking about it. I completely understand. If you are hurting, I am so so sorry. Please know that showing Grace and love does not excuse what they did. There are still natural consequences for sin. 

That is why, when we cannot do it ourselves, we allow a person who is willing to show unmerited favor to those who hurt us. Because that person may be able to plant the seeds and provide the opportunity to help our adversaries be transformed by Jesus. 

Because Jesus saved me. He saved you. He was sent to save us all so that we would not perish, but have eternal life. 

Be a Size You,

Tiffany 

Praying for Paris

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I have never been to Paris.  To be perfectly honest, I have never traveled through Europe at any time in my life.  It is one of those magical places that I dream about visiting.  The history and beauty of one of the oldest countries excites my soul, so it is only natural for me to wish for an opportunity to one day visit.

But today, my heart breaks for France. For it’s beautiful city, Paris. I am so sad for the beautiful people who are now walking around  trying to make sense of the horror that has made its way into their home and before the eyes of their children.  There are so many dead and if I am being honest, it makes me feel incredibly terrified of this world I have brought children into.

When terror blasts its way into the streets, innocence is lost.

But in fear is not where we need to stand.  We may feel afraid, but we need not be afraid.

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33

There is hope and peace and power in the name of Jesus. And even though we may feel afraid because of the evil in this world, it is no surprise to Him who created it.  He knows that this world is full of men who seek to do harm and cause bloodshed.  And even as He knows this, vengeance will be HIS.

So we do not have to worry that evil will win. It cannot. Because God has already given evil its sentence. It has a deadline, and its day is coming soon.

So take heart, friends. Be on your knees  praying for our brothers and sisters in France and everywhere else where atrocities are committed.  Do not buckle in fear, but stand firm in love.

Love has already won.

Beautiful people of Paris, France. We are standing with you in prayer.  We love you and are heartbroken with you.  Terror will not win.

Be a Size You,

Tiffany

Yes, You Can Lose Weight and Feel Amazing During the Holidays

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During this time of year, all anyone can ever think about is Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas shopping, the parties, the baked goods….you get the idea.

Losing weight is not on our agenda until the new year. That is what normal people do.

But I never claimed to be normal. You aren’t normal, either! 😉

Maybe you are someone who doesn’t have to lose weight, but you have some physical goals you would love to achieve.  That is possible as well during the holidays.

Here is one thing you need to know before you do anything else:

Only you have control over your body and how you care for it.  No one else can do that for you.

Don’t blame your genetics. Don’t blame the time of year. Don’t blame other people.  It is all on you.  Got it?

Here is how you can absolutely lose weight and feel amazing during the Holidays.

  1. You need a goal.  And it has to be more than “I want to maintain my weight” or “I want to lose weight and not gain”.  It has to be a goal that is specific. It has to be measurable. There needs to be a deadline.  We like to call the SMART goals.
2. You need accountability.  This is why I put on a Be a Size You boot camp every single month. I have friends and customers that have goals.  I want them to reach those goals.  When they pick a fitness and nutrition plan from me, I give them 100% of my energy and time to push them and keep them accountable to that plan so that they won’t fail.  Accountability is different from support. A lot of people will join these mass online challenges and call that accountability. Those are fun. They are economical and they provide support and motivation, but they are not accountability.  You need someone who will not let you off the hook in terms of your goals and your plan. They will love you, and they will give you tough love.  So get some accountability!

3. You need to be willing to tell yourself NO.  You need to sacrifice something.  I know that sacrifice is not a popular subject. Too often people mistake sacrifice for deprivation. But those two words are not the same.  Deprivation means to lack the necessary needs or withhold them from someone, and it is usually associated with negativity.  Poverty is a sign of deprivation.

Sacrifice means to give up one thing for another. So for example, if during this season, you know that you are most likely to succumb to all the baked goods that are around you, choose instead not to bake or say no to gatherings that you know will sabotage your goals. Saying no is your friend!  I always like to tell myself that I am saying no to this one thing, because I know I am working towards something greater.

4. Be willing to try something different. Don’t be a NEW hater.  New goals require a new approach.  If you are looking to lose weight and what you are doing is not working, you need to adjust your plan, do your research, and find something new that will help you accomplish that goal.  It breaks my heart when friends will turn down an idea and insist they know what they are doing, and they end up spinning their wheels trying to overcome the same hurdle with the same ineffective methods. Folks, that is the definition of insanity!  Find a new fitness and nutrition plan.  And remember, get an accountability partner!

My final thought is this. Anything is possible.  You can still enjoy all the wonderful things that the holidays have to offer and still work towards your goals.  Your health is a great gift. Why put it off until the new year, when you actually can choose to take care of yourself now.  I bet your family would appreciate having you around to celebrate the holidays with them.

Be a Size You,

Tiff

I am back and with a mission.

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Man, I have missed writing. My heart needed the two year break from blogging and sharing.  So much has happened in the last couple of years. Some of it has been amazing and an incredible learning experience and a chance to see God work and challenge my heart to grow.

Other times, it was really hard. Painful, even. Yet, even through the difficulties, God is good. Can I get an Amen?!

But my mission is still the same. Be a Size You isn’t going anywhere because quite frankly, God is allowing me to let it go.  So here it is, the official site.

Where I will share my heart. Where I will share and teach God’s word and what He has to say to us as women who desire nothing more than to love Him with all of our heart, soul, and mind, and grow to be more like Him and become Kingdom women.

Where I will share how fitness and faith can collide and be something so good.

Where we can FINALLY be a community. Together.  In one place.  That is my heart.

I can’t wait to see what God does with this little site and with all of you. Stay tuned as parts of this blog will be updated to meet your needs. I want this to be a site where it can be of value to you and you can obtain resources that you can share with your family and friends.

Are you a fellow Be a Size You gal? Would love to say hi to you!

Be a Size YOU,

Tiffany